Finding My Banana Bread Man      He continues to provide me with "Memories of Green", and he will always be my "Soft Place to Land."

First Review

“. . . a moving memoir that reveals the resilience of the human spirit in the face of personal tragedy. I only wish every patient could be so lucky to have such a devoted partner and advocate as John Davis.”

Katrina Firlik, MD, neurosurgeon and author of Another Day in the Frontal Lobe

Second Review

“In finding his mate and remembering his finest qualities, John has found a way to keep Jack’s spirit alive, not only for John himself but for others who knew and loved him, too, influencing who they are now, and who they will become in the future. In this way, their connection remains unbroken, and their love will endure forever. John’s book is testimony to the fundamental truth that love never dies.”

Martha Tousley - APRN, BC, FT, certified Fellow in Thanatology: Death, Dying and Bereavement

Third Review

Outstanding, heartfelt story of two lives torn apart by illness. ,

October 6, 2008
By Bob Lind "camelwest" (Phoenix, AZ United States) -
For 27 wonderful years, the author and his life partner Jack Orler (aka "Jackie O") had a storybook romance. In their late 20's, they met at a Halloween party, and each knew immediately they had found their "soul mate," their muse, the person with whom the ultimate happiness could be achieved. Jack was the mischievous "Lucy" to John's pragmatic "Ethel," and they brought out the best in each other and all of those around. They relocated from their native rural Michigan town to Scottsdale, Arizona, where Jack opened a successful hairstyling salon, while John had a good job with the state. Jack's son from his marriage, Tom, whom John had helped raise since they met, joined their move to Arizona some years later, eventually marrying one of John's former co-workers, and provided "Papa John" and "Papa John" with their first grandchild.

Unfortunately, this "storybook" had an unexpected and devastating development in the chapter that began in 2004, when Jack went to a doctor because of headaches he had suffered for a few weeks. It was diagnosed as a brain tumor, not just cancer but the most aggressive form of malignancy affecting the brain. With the alternative of a life expectancy measured in weeks, Jack and John decided that Jack would have the suggested surgery, which was considered successful if it got "most" of the fast-spreading cancer, with an optimistic prognosis of another year together. But that was the start of a downward spiral in Jack's previously perfect health, increasing disabilities making him unable to fend for himself, which drafted John into the role of full-time caregiver. Jack's subsequent operations, treatments, illness-related delusions and behavior problems were all problems they faced together, but actually fell more on John's shoulders, who strained to keep Jack's life as full and loving as possible. The eventual death of Jack resulted in a near-breakdown by John, who had been carrying the physical and emotional weight of keeping Jack alive for the past 10 months, and now faced - all at once - his multitude of feelings about the loss of the person who made his life worth living.

Writing this book - which also includes original poems written for and about Jack, as well as their path together - was the way in which John was finally able to verbalize his feelings and regrets, with the hope that their story can help others dealing with catastrophic illnesses and mourning. The book's sizable epilogue contains valuable advice for caregivers, helpers, friends and medical professionals dealing with similar situations, as well as a personal photo journal of Jack and John together. This intelligent and heartfelt book is well written, and unique in its dealing with this situation for unmarried gay couples. Five stars out of five.

Four Review

Poignant, beautiful and charming

November 8, 2008
I was honored to have a part in the proofreading process of this honestly written, heartfelt book, about true love and devastating loss. The author writes from the depths of his soul after learning the news of his beloved Jack's brain tumor, through his very detailed illness, and finally his journey through mourning. A poignant, lovely story.
Karen Reddick, Editor and author of Grammar Done Right!

Fifth Review

Near the very end of my book in the Acknowledgment Section, which closes the book, I spoke of a number of individuals who had made the writing of my legacy to Jack possible. Faye Q. Heimerl (The Editor of Finding My banana Bread Man) was certainly one of those people. The combination of her brilliant editing abilities and the emotions that flowed from me following Jack’s death was a winning combination. She is much more than “My Editor” - she is “My Dear Friend.” In the Acknowledge Section of the book, I wrote the following about Faye – and the words still ring true today:

“The content editing of this book was completed by Faye Quam Heimerl, who, in the course of this venture, became my very good friend. Upon reading the original manuscript, she asked me numerous probing questions, which allowed me to expand immensely on the depth and meaning of the message provided. She was able to twist and shape the contents of what you have just read and provide seamless movement from words to poetry throughout the story. I treasure my connection to this gifted professional.”

I truly believe that she is one of the major reasons why no one who starts to read my book can put it down. The book is kind of like Jack“you just could not get enough of him once you knew him.” How fitting that this would be the nature of the book written in his honor.

Thank you, Faye, for making the book so real – so compelling - to its readers.

Please visit Faye’s Blog and learn more about the woman who helped me create “Finding My Banana Bread Man. Her Blog site is listed here:

If you click on the link above you will find Faye's special and kind words about "Finding My Banana Bread Man," which she has attached to her blog

If you ever need and editor – she is superb!